Carol Boulware, MFT, Ph.D.

Los Angeles - Santa Monica & Redondo Beach, California

Los Angeles psychotherapist helps with depression, anxiety, panic, stress, anger, sexual problems, sex therapy, communication problems, marriage / relationship difficulties, co-dependency, and adults emotionally, physically or sexually abused as children. 20 years counseling & psychology experience.

My Favorite Inspirational Thoughts

Live Each Day to the Fullest

Live each day to the fullest
Get the most from each hour, each day and each age of your life
Then you can look forward with confidence and back without regret

    Be yourself, but be your best self
    Dare to be different and to follow your own star
    And don't be afraid to be happy

Enjoy what is beautiful
Love with all your heart and soul
Believe that those you love, love you

    Forget what you have done for your friends
    and remember what they have done for you
    Disregard what the world owes you and
    concentrate on what you owe the world

When you are faced with a decision, make the decision
as wisely as possible - the forget it
The moment of absolute certainty never arrives

    Blessed is the generation in which the old listen to the young
    And double - blessed is the generation in which the young listen to the old.

    - The Talmud

There is a vitality, a life force, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique.

And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost.

It is not your business to determine how good it is, nor how valuable it is, nor how it compares with other expressions.

It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open.

    You do not even have to believe in yourself or your work.

    You have to keep open and aware directly to the urges that motivate YOU.

    Keep the channel open...

    No artist is pleased...

    There is no satisfaction at any time.

There is only a queer, divine dissatisfaction, a blessed unrest that keeps us marching and makes us more alive than the others.

- Martha Graham to Agnes de Mille

The Beauty of a Woman
Is not in the clothes she wears,
Not the figure that she carries,
Or the way she combs her hair.

The beauty of a woman
Must be seen from in her eyes,
Because that is the doorway to her heart,
The place where love resides.

The beauty of a woman
Is not in a facial mole,

    But true beauty in a woman
    Is reflected in her soul.

    It is the caring that she lovingly gives,
    The passion that she shows,
    And the beauty of a woman
    With passing years only grows!

by Erma Bombeck

I would have talked less and listened more. I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth. I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed. I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains. I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life. I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle. When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner."

There would have been more "I love you's".. more "I'm sorry's"... but mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute...look at it and really see it...and never give it back.

Stop sweating the small stuff. Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what. Instead, let's cherish the relationships we have with those who Do love us. Let's think about what God HAS blessed us with.

And what we are doing each day to promote ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally, as well as spiritually. Life is too short to let it pass you by. We only have one shot at this and then it's gone.

In memory of Erma Bombeck. (Note: Erma Bombeck needed an organ transplant, and even though she could have been moved to the head of the waiting list, due to her prominence and wealth (like Mickey Mantle), she refused to do such, and subsequently, died from organ failure.)

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Carol Boulware, MFT, Ph.D.
Licensed Marriage, Family Therapist - #MFT11632
ABS Certified Sex Therapist #1466
Board Certified Expert in Traumatic Stress
EMDR Certified Therapist- Level II- 1994
EMDRIA Approved Consultant
Somatic Experiencing Practitioner
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